If you’re a man the chances are you have experienced premature ejaculation at some point in your life. It’s remarkably commonplace; According to the British Association of Urological Surgeons (BAUS) around 20-30% of men suffer from PE.
If left untreated, premature ejaculation can lead to a vicious cycle that exacerbates the problem and causes frustration, an unfulfilling sex life, and other related issues.
If this is sounding all too familiar, know that you’re far from alone. Premature ejaculation really is one of the most common sexual dysfunctions around. The good news is that PE is a problem which does have a handful of different solutions, many of which are relatively easy to implement.
Let’s take a closer look at PE, and see what you can do to not only make this issue stop occurring, but also end up with a more satisfying sex life, and the staying power to keep your partner or partners satisfied, too.
How soon is too soon?
In essence, premature ejaculation involves a man ejaculating either before sexual contact has been initiated, or ‘too soon’ once it begins. There is plenty of debate regarding just what ejaculating ‘too soon’ involves. If you’re ejaculating before penetration or any physical stimulation occurs, that’s a strong sign that you might be struggling with PE.
The International Society for Sexual Medicine (ISSM) defines PE as ”ejaculation which always or nearly always occurs prior to or within about one minute of vaginal penetration”.
However, seeing as the average length of time to ejaculate during intercourse is 5 minutes and 24 seconds, it’s understandably unclear as to where to line between ‘too soon’ and ‘normal’ can be drawn.
This really comes down to each individual and to each couple, and your own feelings about your sexual stamina. While experiencing PE some of the time is completely normal, if you are consistently ejaculating too quickly, or are experiencing this more than 50% of the time, it may be worth seeking solutions that can help you with this, and which can also improve your sex life and relationship.
What causes Premature Ejaculation?
As with many issues surrounding individuals’ sex lives and relationships with their own body, there’s no cut-and-dried answer to this particular question. However, we are able to separate the causes of PE into two categories: the psychological, and the physical.
As far as the psychological aspect goes, PE can be caused by anxiety, over-excitement, inexperience, or other issues which exist in the relationship (among other factors). Physical causes can be anything from thyroid problems to other underlying health issues, and can also include drug use or the side effects of prescribed medications.
If you’re unsure of the root cause of your premature ejaculation problems, it may be best to consult your GP to see whether or not it is the result or a symptom of a deeper health issue.
For most young men experiencing PE, the problem stems from psychological issues, which can be fairly easily tackled with a handful of techniques or certain medications. If you’d like to look further into simple tips for avoiding premature ejaculation, check out our article on some of the most common and effective methods used by men worldwide.
Do gels and creams work?
There are a number of aesthetic gels and specialist creams out there, which can help to improve your performance by numbing the tip of the penis. These creams work in a similar manner to performance-enhancing condoms (e.g. Durex Performa), which also feature mild-aesthetics on the inside of the condom.
The downside with these treatments is that they can also decrease the sensitivity of your partner’s vagina, if not used correctly.
A medical solution
Those seeking medical solutions to PE will be pleased to hear that in recent years, there has been a wealth of scientific research into the development of certain highly effective treatments, aimed primarily at men who struggle with consistent premature ejaculation.
Studies into Dapoxetine (Priligy) – an effective, short-acting selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI) – have shown that this compound can help men increase the time it takes to ejaculate after commencing sex with their partner by up to three times what it was prior to taking the medication. That’s great news for anyone seeking to seriously boost their performance and decrease or completely rid themselves of their PE.
With any medication, it’s important to understand if it’s the right solution, especially when many non-medical options for those who suffer from PE are available.